
My thought for the day is..."Be A Friend".
The longer that my husband and I serve in the ministry...the more we learn about people. People are very complicated! LOL! Yet, they are very simple at the same time. :) I have realized that people want to be accepted, loved and cared for. Of course, that seems simple enough. Yet we fail so often in being a true friend.
Think of a friend...someone you have known a year or less. Try to think of all that you know about that person. Do you know their background...their past? Have you even taken the time to ask? Sadly, we could be friends with someone for years and not know anything about them.
One time, we invited a couple who were our friends, over to our home for a meal. This man told us his story-the background of his life. My husband and I enjoyed it...learning about this man...his growing up experiences, how he came to know the Lord, how he met his wife...etc. After he finished, my husband said, "Does your pastor know your story?" He replied, "He has never asked. When I talk with him, I feel like he doesn't care." He had gone to his church for 5 years. What a tragedy!
If there is one thing I have gleaned from working with people...it is this:
1. Show them that you are real.
This man's wife said after their visit..."I feel that I can be myself around you both." What a compliment!
2. Show them that you are reachable.
Open yourself up. Invite them to your home. Let them see you as yourself and not just as the "pastor...SS teacher...Christian leader".
3. Listen and care!
Do not be a fake! We all have met people who were genuine and cared...and you knew it in an instant. And we have also met people...when you walked away...knew they really didn't care.
My husband and I will soon be starting a church...and loving people is at the top of our agenda! Make it part of your year to care and love at least one new person! You will be surprised what a blessing they will be to you!
"People want to know how much you care...before they care how much you know."